Considering Divorce After Several Deaths in The Family
Mon, Mar 28th 2011
I feel at the end of my rope. Begining just under a year ago, my family and I have been through a lot. Our family pet of 13 years died, my mother died, one of my sons(16) friends comitted suicide, a significant injury happened to my son, my wifes father died, my father is in the hospital with serious long term health issues, and of course, there is all the drama of a daughter leaving home this year for college.
My wife has always been a fairly negative person, but now it is becoming unbearable to me. Two days ago, after a "girls night out" with the female relatives on my side of the family, she had a screaming tirade for 2 hours in the car as I drove her home from my Aunt's house. She said a lot of hateful things directed mostly at my family and how I don't deal with it because I always have to be the "nice" guy who everyone loves me, etc. etc.
This has been coming on for a few years, but now I am not sure...am I just still grieving? Am I going through the exercise of coming up with why I want to stay married? Next year our last child will leave for college. And you know, I can't come up with any other reason to stay I will be lonely, it will hurt the kids, or my wife couldn't survive it.
I have suggested counseling, but she won't go, because "she doesn't need to defend herself," (her words). Is this just still grief? Should I go to counseling by myself?
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