My name is Traci. I am only 21 years old but I am currently trying to get over past issues from an ex fiance who abused me mentally, physically, and emotionally. I was very young when I started to date him and he was much older and of a different race. He started to abuse me after 3 years of dating. Once we became engaged it just got worse. I moved 32 hours away from my family and home to be with this man. He cheated on me more than a dozen of occasions. I knew, but did nothing about it because I was afraid of the consequences. He would hit me in the head, stomach, and back. He would kick me in the legs. I was not allowed out of our house and if I did without his permission he accused me of cheating on him. I was not allowed to have a phone or have many friends. I finally got out of the relationship after 4 years.
I stayed single for awhile, but then I met the man of my dreams. We went to high school together and our families love each of us so much. We separated a few months ago because of my trust issues. I got so mad one night and started ranting. I know this man would never cheat or hit me, but I am so scared of getting hurt. He loves me so much, yet I cannot seem to get over the fact what my ex had done to me. I want to be back with the man of my dreams, but I want to get over my issues first.
I need help. PLEASE.
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