I will try to make this as short as possible. I have been married for 10 yrs. I have no children. 3 months ago my husband left and I discovered he had moved in with someone (another female) and he has asked for a divorce. I do not want one. Meanwhile, I am working and able to take care of my finances. My problem is this. I have a lot of friends (male & female), but I have one female friend who is 31 and lives at home with her mother. She was friends with both me and my husband. She knows my husband does not live with me anymore and she calls me everyday (sometimes 5 times) a day and asks me to go places with her. I was nice at first and went to the bars with her a few times, but now she expects me to do it every weekend which I can't afford or want to do. I have tried to tell her that I have other plans, but she gets really offended, or if I say I want to just stay home she makes suggestions like, "I'll bring over a pizza and movie". She is a good friend, but I am starting to really get upset about her bothering me all the time. How do I get the message across to her that I don't want to spend all my free time with her without losing our friendship.
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