I have an extremely difficult time trusting people. Though this is for good reasons (past lessons learned) it is causing me much angst in my present relationship. I have been engaged for almost a year now, and I truly love him. I want to trust him, but I am just too afraid to. I am not sure if I can let myself. I feel like if I let my guard down and begin to fully trust him that one day I am going to find out everything has been a huge act and I will be left with nothing but another broken heart, only worse than I have ever felt before. I have heard that the more you love someone, the more power that person has to hurt you. I believe that is very true. I cannot take that kind of pain, but how can I ever be comfortable and completely happy if I cannot allow myself to trust? I need your help with this.
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