Friend's New Fling
I am having a problem accepting a friend's new relationship. I wouldn't say we are close friends, but I have come to admire and respect this person. I am female - he is male. I just recently found out that he has been dating an exotic dancer. First, I hate the fact that right away I judged this person by their occupation rather than who they are and second I can't shake the feeling of disappointment I have in my friend for pursuing this type of relationship. I know I am being judgmental but I really respected and admired him and somehow look at this relationship as being shallow. I just want to shake my disappointment and look at my friend the same way no matter who he is seeing. Can you help me deal with this feeling of disappointment? Up until this point I have really enjoyed the beginnings of this friendship, but now something is holding me back from calling him and asking why I had to find out from someone else.
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